When friends turn into Obama-hating zealots

Wallace McLendon of Chapel Hill penned an enlightening op-ed about his encounters with former friends who had been seduced by the dark side of money and bigotry, and I think it's as good a time as any to face some undeniable truths. Topping the list of those truths: Friendship requires at least a modicum of respect. Friends are somebody you can come to with your problems, and maybe together figure out the best way to solve them. Friends are also there to keep you in check, to stop you from buying snake oil and other wasteful ventures. But how can you respect somebody who judges an individual or an entire race based on the color of their skin? How can you respect somebody who worships at the altar of Faux News and Breitbart, or whatever source of "news" that reinforces their prejudices while wildly misinforming them? The answer is, you can't. You might be able to tolerate such a person in short bursts, as long as the door is in sight. But true respect is simply not in the equation. Nor is true friendship, so cutting that person loose is not something to feel shame or regret over.



One comment to rule them all:

Amazing that someone has broken away from the herd to point out the unbridled ignorance of their peers towards this President that all indices show has not impacted their lives in a negative manner whatsoever but yet they invent and spew so much hatred based on absurd and irrelevant hyperbole. We can only conclude that the basis for their absurd hatred is their fear that their privilege of supremacy has been usurped by the election of a black President.

That is it in a nut shell. The dominance and privilege of the white male over American society has been so ingrained in our consciousness that it never needed to be addressed openly. It was as reliable as the sun rising every day. But the aura of a black President shattered that magic bubble and triggered a fear response, at least in those who had been comfortable in the nest of privilege.

Thanks for posting this.

I recently reconnected with an old friend from high school who described me as his "best friend" back then. He has since gone full bore for the dark side, posting Obama is a Muslim and birther screeds daily. After a few attempts at reason and fact checking made no difference I cut the connection and said no more FB, but call me up sometime and we'll have a beer or something.

A few weeks later, out of the blue, with no additional comment, one Sunday night I got a message containing a bad anti-Obama video, "proving once and for all" that he's a Muslim, as if that really matters.

I went ballistic and made my disgust known loud and clear. The response was, " can't believe you are going to walk away from this over politics." My friend obviously had no respect for my thoughts, and probably never really knew m that well.


"...the question is not whether we will be extremists, but what kind of extremists we will be."

Martin Luther King, Jr., Letter from Birmingham Jail

Life is simply too short

to either swallow and tolerate or engage in fruitless debate, especially with those who really are smart enough to know better.

I understand the media today is chock-full of hyperbole and shock tactics, but it's not that much different from the soap operas that were created and still exist to sell soap. I'm through with "excusing" people's ignorance by blaming it on the media. They own their own opinions, no matter where said opinions came from, and it does nobody any good to put ribbons on an idiot pig. Or elephant.

Great post. I've left a

Great post. I've left a trail of so-called friends behind as a result of politics. It started during the first Bush administration and the catastrophic war in Iraq. These were my Naval Academy mates, who ought to have known better. I still steer clear of them after all these years.